Tuesday, June 14, 2005

Liars, liars, liars -or- A very long post

So it's happened to everybody who's been in a chat room before. You talk to someone, he gives you basic information about himself, age, sex, location, and then after a while, he tells you, that at least one of these infos was wrong, "i'm a m", I'm really 16, my name is not John. You get the idea.
This is the story about a lie that went really far. And I thought I was a nice girl.=^_^=

I'm in a room, my room, and I meet someone, among others, who seems to be a guy and is interested in talking to me, nothing unusual so far. Inside the room, he was insisting I told him my name, of course I said no as usual, and as a reflex I asked whether he was an Indian, he didn't actually answer that question.
He sent me a personal message and we started a private conversation. He started by telling me his name, location and asking whether I wanted to know anything else about him. -Impressive, unusual, therefore interesting-. My name is Brian C., I'm from North Brisbane, Australia. I didn't even know there was a North Brisbane somewhere in Australia.

I liked that attitude and I told him my first name -I know it's no big deal-. I did not know or check which time zone North Brisbane was in but I did locate it on the Australia map.

One thing about a lie is that you have to maintain it, live by it. 'Brian' slept at about 3am or 4am -so he told me- on the days we chatted, he used the word 'mate' when talking about his male friends. I did not have much to say about his English considering that what he was using was actually 'chat language'. We spoke for a few days. 'Brian' was hilarious, funny, talkative, unpredictable, nice... I liked Brian. He put a lot of 'animation' in my room especially when he told them that I was a man (!!!), hopefully only one person in there seemed to take him seriously. We even went room hoping together; so many laughs, so much fun...He read my blog, -some parts of it at least - and he came out of it with the impression that most guys I chat with were hitting on me (really?).

'Brian' gave my ID to his 'Indian friend' 'Ankit'. He told me he had an Indian nickname guddu and he used the word 'ya' a lot -you smell something?-.
I suppose the indian nickname thing just slipped because when I asked 'Brian' what guddu meant he just told me he did not know.

Unlike 'Brian', his friend 'Ankit' was very calm, he spoke (wrote) slowly, took his time and had many interesting things to say about Brian, like: how I would have a crush on him if I saw him, how he ignores him when he's chatting with girls and how he's lucky to be able to attract girls so easily and also how he likes to remain unrevealed to the girls - I was telling 'Brian' a few days earlier that I liked to remain "unrevealed"-. Lucky Brian... Without even noticing it I had spent 2 hours talking to 'Ankit', I had never spent so much time talking to 'Brian' probably because he would have said much more in less time than 'Ankit'.

It seems that when I spoke to 'Brian' after talking to 'Ankit', our conversation would reflect in part something that I had said earlier to 'Ankit', and the same happened when I had a conversation with 'Brian' before talking with 'Ankit', 'Brian' ends up bringing up something that I was saying to 'Ankit' a while before... And so on.

I felt like writing about 'Brian' since the first time we chatted, there was so much I could have said then; but many little details about him and his 'friend' were bothering me.

'Brian' was going to see a movie with his friends, I thought: "Star wars" and he said, no it's not out yet over here, I thought "funny cause Rizal saw it and he lives in Perth". All Brian had to say about it is, "I have to check that". Then of course there is his 'Indian' nickname "guddu".
'Ankit' and 'Brian' have a lot in common, they even use similar language, and they seem to know each other very well and they both have yahoo IDs ending with 1985.
And finally, I knew for a fact that Brian had read my blog, but surprisingly enough, when I checked my counter statistics, I had no entries from North Brisbane, I had only two Australian visitors, Rizal from Perth and a stranger from another location in Australia.

I did not doubt Brian from the start, but as I was getting ready to post something about him and I wanted to be sure that I would not look like a fool after writing enthusiastically about this young Aussie only to have to write later on that he had played a bad joke on me.
As my doubts grew with the days, I needed to check where exactly in the world 'Brian' was. I gave him a link to one of my post pages and what do you know, 'Brian' is actually in India -not a big surprise-.

I asked Brian to tell me the truth, "...I told you the truth about myself..., why did you lie to me...?" "...where do you live?..."
Unfortunately he kept on lying, I guess he was just not expecting these questions and probably felt bad about lying and maybe thought I would "dump" him when I discover the truth -ok, so maybe he doesn't really care-.
When I told him I knew for a fact that he was currently in India he had no choice but to admit being an Indian living in Mumbai and that he had given me a friend's asl. -What do you know...-.
I was mad, rightfully mad; he had lied to me for no reason at all... I felt like an idiot. The name, the location, and what else, is there any truth in all he's been telling me?

The worst part of this is that my mood was obvious to other people. Which brings me to Kayvian. Kayvian told me the words I needed to hear (read), to get this episode behind me, he told me to chill, and reminded me that I met enough people on the net. I was spoiling the conversation with a nice person (Kayvian) because of a few lies I had a hard time digesting.
'Brian' who is really(?) Pankaj did say he was sorry and was afraid I would be angry at him -what did you expect-. He told me everything else is true except the name and location. I suppose one of the reasons I took this so bad is because Brian or Pankaj is someone I actually enjoyed chatting with.

I became a little paranoid afterwards, I was starting to think that maybe 'Ankit' and 'Brian' were the exact same person I gave 'Ankit' a hard time when he came online later that day. I pressured him to tell me the truth, he did apologize, what more could he do, Pankaj (ex-Brian) told me that he brought 'Ankit' into this and that it was not his fault. At some point I even thought it was Dhruv playing a joke on me...
I suppose I believe people too easily because I actually believe what they tell me now. I suppose I could choose not to believe them but I would have nothing to gain from that and I must admit that I'm a little tired playing detectives with those kids, I have better things to do, honest people to talk to. Then again Pankaj told me he would come back online only in November(!), and since Pankaj has been offline, Ankit has been too...

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

HEY JASMINE JUST BEFORE READING THIS BLOG I POSTED ONE COMMENT ON YOUR COMING TO MUMBAI THING.

I READ THAT AND THEN I READ THIS SO U ARE ALREADY WITH THESE KIND OF EPISODES. SO NO USE OF THAT COMMENT. NO PARDON ME BUT I MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO TELL U MY NAME. BUT CERTAINLY I FEEL A WELL WISHER TO U.

SO LAST TIME BE CAREFUL

YOURS
FAN A NOT A JOKER
OK

YOU CAN CALL ME NONAME OR (NONY)
I WOULD LOOK TO CHAT TO YOU. SOMEDAY

AND PLEASE NEVER WRITE ANY BLOG ON THESE COMMENTS BYE

Marguerite Jasmin said...
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Rohana said...

doesn't this happen all the time all over the world. i hate fraudsters even if the intention is good.
Rohana

Marguerite Jasmin said...

It's true that this sort of thing happens all over the world